Communication by Sharon Renae

Many of us don’t like communication if it is confrontation. Somewhere in our mind we think if we ignore it, or do nothing it will go away and nobody has to be hurt, upset or embarrassed. However, when we say nothing the silence gives permission for the act to continue.

And it does continue, and it gives permission for other unwanted acts to occur. And they do.

Yet we sit biting our tongue, becoming more upset about the situation and afraid to confront it.

We may also have unspoken expectations. You know, like the one where your partner is supposed to be the knight in shining armor, sweeping you off your feet and defending your honor. Only we’ve neglected to tell them. So they haven’t bothered to feed the horse, polish the armor or practice carrying you off into the sunset while battling the dragons. We just stew about how they haven’t fulfilled our expectation of them.

Then there is the other kind of communicating. The bitchy one. The one where we point out to everyone what they have done wrong, or what they didn’t do. But we don’t even once acknowledge the good that they did do. This is often true with parents and kids. We notice what they got wrong on their school papers, but not what they got right. We notice the shelf they didn’t dust in their room, but we don’t say anything about what is in place or what was done.

Then there is the neglectful communication. We’re just too busy to stop and tell someone, “I love you, I appreciate you, thanks for being there.”

We have to learn that it is okay to speak up and let others know our boundaries. We must learn to be very clear. What we want, what we expect and what is not acceptable. We must learn to understand there is nothing evil, or mean about letting others know what we don’t want. It is a way of honoring and loving ourselves.

It is just as important to acknowledge to others the good that they’ve done, and what they mean to us. When we do that we are loving and honoring who they are.

Let’s Communicate!

Sharon Renae is a professional psychic with over forty years of applied experience.  She has a passion for life and creativity.  She is a minister of Divine Thought, a workshop facilitator, a published author, and a self proclaimed bohemian artist.  She enjoys living life with passion and joy and hopes to empower others to believe in themselves, their goals and their dreams.  She believes life should be lived, not feared.

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